Marriage for a long time has been seen as a sanction of unrestricted sex between couples. The thought of convicting husbands for raping their spouses has been ridiculed for a long time. Rape is also a highly condemned offense. However, that has not applied to marital rape. The demand for sex from either of the two is seen as reasonable. Non-fulfillment of bedroom obligation is notable as default or even breach of contract. How then does a conjugal obligation become marital rape?
Charity from California had a normal marriage. She also had a higher sex drive than her husband. She would always suggest sex only for her husband to reject her proposal for about three years. This rejection drove her to be withdrawn and became disinterested in sex.
Her change of behavior did correspond to her husband converse move of interest in sex. He could not get sex from her either. He therefore resorted to do it while she was asleep. He believed that it was obligatory for his wife to give him his conjugal rights. Additionally, she remained asleep during the first instances of while he did this but would wake-up disoriented.
This abuse went on for seven years and resulted in post-traumatic stress disorder. When she begun to feel herself during the encounters, she became disassociated and withdrew from their daughter. Her productivity at work further declined to the point that she had to see a therapist.
Religion, through the Bible, also propagates the notion that there is no rape in marriage. It gives the man authority over a woman’s body and similarly the woman takes charge of the man’s body. Conservative Christians also do not believe in divorce except by default through death.
Marital rape is a crime that mainly affects the youth, women and mother. The bigger picture is often misinterpreted. Proof of rape is a humiliating process and in most instances, the victim bears the burden of proof. These claims are even harder to prove in a marriage setting.
Marital problems especially when coupled with marital rape make them difficult to get through. Once you accuse your spouse of a crime, it gets even harder to resolve the problems within and go back to the usual. The emotional toil and destruction that marital rape causes is also another nagging point in marriage. Divorce then becomes a resolution to these problems for the sake of peace of mind and personal health.
Although divorce is painful, it is unavoidable in these situations. Marriage should be safe haven where the interests of both parties are important. When this purpose is lost, then the marriage also fails to exist.
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